Hope. Verb or Noun?

“Hope is a fantastic noun and a shit verb.”Unknown [1] Just take a moment to reflect on that quote for a minute. How many times have you heard people say, “I hope ..”? Hope as a verb is not a strategy for success because hoping for something, doesn’t make it happen....

On Paying Attention

Yesterday I wrote about the concept of understanding the idea of ‘How Do You Want To Be?’ I was reflecting on that post [1] and writing journal notes last night. The following extract from my journal partly answers the question, “Where have you been...

How Do You Want To Be?

Often in our lives, we think about what we need to do. Have you ever thought, however, about how you want to be? If we understand how we want to be, our behaviours and actions will become natural from there. If I want to be curious, I will ask questions and take an...

Wargame For​ Autonomy

Autonomy is a great motivator. It’s one of the Basic Psychological Needs that people look for in their work (whether they realise it or not). We all like to feel we are in control. Feeling out of control can increase our anxiety and our dissatisfaction with our...

Who is your coach?

I am an executive coach. My role is to sit with leaders and ask questions, listen to their answers, challenge their thinking, hold them accountable for their actions and do so in a confidential and safe environment. I have a coach. His name is Graham. His role is to...

Is Curiosity the Antidote to Anxiety?

I’m not talking clinical-level anxiety here. I’m talking about everyday fears and discomforts that we experience due to our relationship with uncertainty. We come across situations that make us feel uncomfortable every day. Consider the scenario of a networking event....

Don’t Interrupt The Struggle

As a leader, you may be really good at asking questions. If you are, you may notice that, on occasion, the person you’re asking questions of may be struggling with answering. This may be for several reasons: They may be accessing long term memory.They may be working...

Curiosity & Happiness

Do we want our people to be happy at work, or would we prefer they prioritise curiosity? Can they have both? In a 2009 paper on Curiosity and Interest [1], the authors discussed the difference between the two emotions. Curiosity has us looking for the new and...