Control vs Influence

A myth I often dispel with clients is that we have control over people. We don’t. The only person we have limited control over is ourselves. We can control what we say and what we do. To a limited extent, we can control how we think. We cannot, however, control...

“It’s Time To Learn A Few New Jokes”

In 2012, the University of Melbourne Centre for Ethical Studies produced a report entitled Resilience: Women’s Fit Functioning and Growth at Work: Indicators and Predictors. At the time it was published as part of the Gender Equality Project. The report...

The Power Of A Simple System

In his book Deep Work, Cal Newport talks about Jerry Seinfeld’s simple system for getting work done. It involves putting a cross on the calendar each day he writes a joke and not placing a mark when he doesn’t. As Jerry tells it, once you get a row or two of crosses,...

On Busyness and Time Management

“Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.”- Antoine De Saint-Exupéry “It is vain to do with more what can be done with less.”- William of Occam “Simplify. Simplify”- Henry David Thoreau “The nature of creativity is to make space for...

What Else Is Happening?

We’ve all got them. That one person or that group of people that we find difficult. [1] I’ve written before about how people have a “right thing” and how taking others’ perspectives can help you understand motives. What if we were to take it one step further?...

What’s The Question?

If you peruse the business literature, or even just business posts on social media, you will eventually come across the phenomenon of “meeting bashing”.  It seems no-one likes a meeting and every commentator has a three, four or five-step process to address...

You Can’t Influence The Organisation

In his book, Sapiens, Yuval Noah Harari talks about how we, as human beings, have invented social constructs so that we can create order and certainty for ourselves.  We have called these social constructs ‘companies’ and ‘organisations’.   The...

How to listen to feedback

Consider the following scenario … A close colleague comes to you and asks for feedback. “Give it to me straight” they say.  So you do. Far from being grateful they get defensive. You can see it in their body language. You can hear it in their response...

You can’t do everything.

“A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention.”- Herbert Simon There are a lot of highly successful people out there that have achieved great things in their fields of endeavour. For each one, there is someone else who wants to interview and...